It’s not uncommon for a woman to find that she has sabotaged a good relationship. If you have done this yourself in the past, then you might be wondering why that is and what you can do to change it so that it does not happen to you in your future. Sabotaging a relationship is actually pretty common and it’s not exclusive to women, though it does tend to happen a little more frequently to females than it does males. It’s not easy to try and have a relationship with someone else, and no one gives you a map or a blueprint on exactly what you need to do to make a relationship work, do they?
There are many possibilities for why someone might sabotage a relationship and we will get to a few of them in a moment. Before that, though, you want to remind yourself that you DO deserve to have a good relationship and there is no reason why that cannot happen. With the right mindset about dating, you can end up having exactly the kind of situation that you desire to have in your life.
Here are some reasons why a woman might sabotage a good relationship:
1) You feel like it is too good to be true.
There is no question that we live in a cynical world. We expect that bad things are going to happen and when they don’t.. we often wait around for the inevitable shoe to drop. You might feel as though you really do not deserve to be happy and that can cause you to expect that bad things are going to pop up. If this is the case, then you need to train yourself to think a little more positive when it comes to dating and expect that good things will happen to you and that there is no such thing as too good to be true when the situation is RIGHT.
2) You’ve learned this behavior from someone else.
Growing up, we look at other people in our lives to give us the direction and examples of what a relationship should be like. If you have modeled yourself after someone else who was always sabotaging their relationships, then it is no wonder why this seems to happen to you. This is a cycle that you CAN break, things can change, and you can learn a better way. You really do not have to stay stuck in this pattern forever.
3) Most of your relationships have been bad, so this is what you expect to happen.
If you are used to ending up with the wrong guy, with making the wrong decision about dating, then it might be the reason why you would sabotage a good relationship. We tend to live up to our own expectations, and if you expect that the relationship is going to turn sour, then it only stands to reason that you will find a way to make it happen. This is another cycle that can easily be broken.