Is it possible to keep the spark, the fire, the passion alive in a relationship for 5, 10, even 20 years? Most people have experienced romantic spark dying off sometime in their lives. The relationship starts off hot and passionate, but in a few months or years becomes monotonous.
How do you prevent that from happening? How do you keep the fire alive in a relationship, even after you’ve been together for a long time?
==> Learn Their Love Language
In his groundbreaking book “The 5 Love Languages,” Dr. Gary Chapman reveals that different people receive and give love differently.
The five love languages are: Physical praise, quality time together, gifts, acts of service and physical touch.
Different people experience and give love differently. For example, if you’re the kind of person who enjoys physical touch, it may seem natural to you to give physical touch to show your love.
However, your partner may be more of an auditory person who likes to hear that they’re loved.
Unless you explore how each of you actually receives love, it’s entirely possible that each of you could be expressing love without the other person experiencing it.
Figure out your love language and talk about it with your partner.
==> The Romantic Spark
A romantic relationship isn’t just about love however. It’s also about spark, fire, heat, passion.
Keeping the man-woman attraction alive and strong after years in a relationship is often more challenging than keeping the love alive.
How do you keep your partner turned on, even after the initial honeymoon period?
Start with spontaneous kisses. Remember how in the beginning of your relationship you’d kiss and makeout at every chance you could get? Rekindle the fire by spontaneously kissing your partner again.
Do something outside the box. Something adventurous. For example, go for an unplanned weekend drive. Or go bungee jumping together. Get the adventurous spirit alive again.
Finally, ask your partner about his or her turnons. What would they want you to do that would really get them excited? Good communication extends to passion as well.
==> Time and Prioritization
One common mistake couples make is de-prioritizing their relationship.
In the beginning of the relationship, you’ll do anything to spend more time with the other person. But once the relationship becomes routine, it suddenly stops becoming a priority.
This shift usually happens over months. It can be very hard to notice as it’s happening. You wake up one day to find that spending time with your partner simply isn’t as important as it used to be.
If you want to keep the spark alive, that has to change. Your partner needs to be the priority in your life. Let him or her know that and deliberately plan to spend more time together.
These are a few ways to keep the spark, the passion and the connection alive in a relationship. Relationships often don’t steer themselves – If you want your relationship to thrive in the long run, it may take a bit of conscious effort. Use the tips above to keep the passions burning hot even after years being together.