Figuring out how to make a guy want you is never easy.
If a man tells you he doesn’t know what he wants when you ask him about a relationship, then what exactly is he trying to tell you? Does he really not know what he wants? Is he busy? Is he not looking for a committed relationship at this point in time? Is it just his way of saying, “I’m really not that into you”?
Taking just a couple of minutes to read to the end of this article will help you get into the mind of a man so you’ll know exactly what he means when he tells you he doesn’t know what he wants.
He Has No Idea What He Wants…Or Does He?
In most cases, when a man says he doesn’t know what he wants it means one of two things:
1.) He is confused and really doesn’t know what he wants.
2.) He knows what he wants and it’s not you, but he’s afraid to tell you directly because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
For the most part, men use words literally. Women, on the other hand, often say one thing, but mean another. They hint at things and want their man to pick up on it.
For example, when a woman says, “I’m fine”, she often means something like, “I’m not fine, but I really don’t want to talk about it. You should know what you did to upset me. I shouldn’t have to tell you.” Men tend to be much more straightforward. This is why men get really frustrated when they don’t know what they did and their wife or girlfriend won’t tell them in a direct, straightforward manner.
Straightforward communication can be good news because if a man tells you he doesn’t know what he wants, then chances are that’s exactly what he means. The trick, of course, is figuring out WHY he doesn’t know what he wants.
If you’ve always been friends and suddenly hit him with questions about being in a relationship, then you may just catch him off guard. When this is the case, he may tell you he’s not sure what he wants because he just needs some time to think about it and figure out exactly how he feels about you.
Likewise, a man may not know if he wants to be in a relationship with you for any of the following reasons:
1.) He’s currently focused on his career or other goals. He may feel like he can’t give you the time and attention you deserve.
2.) He may be young and not looking for a committed relationship. He’s more interested in the singles scene and being able to date without anything tying him down.
3.) He may not be that into you. He may like you as a friend, but isn’t romantically attracted to you.
4.) He may be super busy with other aspects of his life.
5.) You may not be his only love interest and he’s confused over which girl he should choose.
It can be extremely frustrating figuring out what men want, but don’t let it throw you.
If the man you’re interested in tells you he doesn’t know what he wants, then the best thing you can do is give him space and don’t pressure him. Then, gauge how he reacts when you leave him alone for a while and you should be able to tell whether he’s into you or not.