My oldest brother recently went through his second divorce, but fortunately, he did not make the same mistake during that eight-year relationship as he did in the first: tattoo his arm and back with tributes to his first wife.
Now, my brother pursued many pieces of body art after those initial tattoos, so they didn’t seem out of the ordinary, but after that marriage came to its tragic end, he was stuck with painful reminders on his very skin. This is simply one complication that can come after the end of a relationship that has lasted many years. So how can you get your life back on track?
Well, first off, if you made the same mistake my brother did, then it’s a good idea to investigate tattoo removal services in your area. Find a clinic that uses proven technology and staff with plenty of experience. In the past, having a tattoo removed could leave extensive scarring, but advances in the field have made results much smoother and more desirable. Don’t be afraid to schedule a consultation with a professional to have your specific questions answered.
Just because you want to have your tattoo wiped off your skin permanently doesn’t mean you need to be rash and dump every gift s/he has ever given, every memento, every sign that s/he was ever in your life. If the pain is too raw to allow you to make a decision right now, then pack it all away and tuck it back in the closet or put it into a storage unit. This person was a part of your life for a long time; erasing the evidence won’t change that.
You will move on eventually, but do so at your own pace. You may have a slew of friends that try to set you up, thinking you’ll be fine once you find a new romance, but be firm and clear about how you feel about this. You may even want to see a counselor to help you sort out your feelings and the next steps you need to take as you move forward with your life.
Branch out. You may shy away from hobbies that kept you occupied as a couple, which is natural, so you should explore new activities–social or not–that you can enjoy on your own. Doing so may even lead to dating opportunities in the future, but don’t go looking for new hobbies with that express purpose in mind.
The death of a long-term relationship is hard, so it’s normal to grieve. But don’t let that mourning stunt your growth as a person. See this as an opportunity to redefine yourself, and it can turn out to be a good experience in the long run.